Look At Your Past Without Guilt
A friend and I were talking yesterday, and she mentioned how so-and-so had done such-and-such by the age of somewhere-in-the-mid-20s. This, she said, made her feel lame in comparison.
I replied with a few thoughts, and then, as usually happens, thought to myself, wait a minute. That was a Thing. I usually forget stuff if I don’t write it down, so I tried to condense what I was thinking into a tweet:
Look at your past without guilt over what you haven’t accomplished. If you don’t like what you see, use that as fuel to change going forward.
The problem is that we often make the mistake of comparing ourselves to someone else and letting that form into a type of self-judgement, whether that someone is another person or some image of what we want to be or think we should be but aren’t. What I was getting at in my responses to my friend and that tweet is that our past has passed, is water under the bridge, spilled milk, and so on. When it comes to the accomplishments of yesterday, there’s no room for guilt. Any time spent sighing over what we could have or should have accomplished is a waste.
We also tend to underestimate our past accomplishments, but that’s the subject of another post.
What our past does give us, though, is fuel for changing our future. If you look back and find yourself lacking in what you’d hoped you would accomplish, let that drive you to change what comes next.
Did you write that book / run that marathon / start that business? No? Then it comes down to the playground question: what are you gonna do about it?
Do you wish you would have painted more, photographed more, written more, traveled more, or, hell, I don’t know, collected more garden gnomes?
Now is your chance.
Our actions speak clearer than hopes and wishes. If you’re committed, you can do this. It might hurt to give up whatever has consumed your time (ahhh, but something tells me you might not miss it as much as you think), but that’s where the whole fuel thing comes in. Take that “Damnit, I wish I would have ________” feeling, and ride it like a rocket. That “I wish I would have” feeling is what will help you cut loose from whatever holds you back. Direct your efforts ruthlessly to your new pursuit.
Time will go by no matter what. How will you spend it?